I’ve literally found my voice. The voice I’ve found is my caring mind or balanced adult. I was vacuuming – as a matter of fact – and I did something “wrong.” Immediately my wounded child felt dejected, collapsing a number of memories into simply giving up. Whoa! That was a quick mood switch! I was […]
The Adult State = The Balanced State
Having been reminded yesterday of the mind’s ability to divide itself into parts, sides, or voices, (1) I identified three persistent voices that were key in forming my everyday life experience. I’ll use Eric Berne’s terms for them: a child, parent, and adult ego or consciousness state. Berne explains: “‘That is your Parent’ means: ‘You […]
Glimpses of What Lies Ahead
Having newly discovered, or re-discovered perhaps, my balanced adult, (1) I’m now having fun with it. I spilled a bottle of glue today while transferring it from one bottle to another. I enjoyed watching myself clean up the mess, moderately. I knew full well (without a barrier of resistance appearing) that I could restore the […]
The Caring Mind, the Adult State
Sometimes it seems to me that we have many selves. Maybe innumerable selves, I don’t know. Buddhists talk about hungry mind and grasping mind. The self or mind that I just noticed – and that I’m a virtual stranger to – I think of as the caring mind. I was in the middle of moaning […]
Cyndy Sheldon: On Telling Ourselves Our Truth….
Writer’s Corner Cyndy is a gestalt therapist living in Bellingham, WA and a member of the Bellingham Meet-up. She’s the author of two books that I know of! ON TELLING OURSELVES OUR TRUTH…. “When you live in complete acceptance of what is, that’s the end of all drama in your life.” Eckhart Tolle MANY ARE AFRAID, […]
Pinnacle of Achievement: A Harm-Free Day
Having taken a vow of harmlessness yesterday, (1) I had my first harm-free day today. Even if I never reach this pinnacle of achievement again, I’ll remember this day as a great success. The price I paid for being an old troll lay in having to experience disappointment with myself, dismay, and depression. If I […]
Welcome to the Third Dimension
I’ve traced this lack of compassion that I feel back to the crib. My arms were tied to the sides of the crib to stop me from scratching as a result of having excema. I was wheeled into the kitchen and left there all night no matter how much I cried. (1) I concluded that […]
Layer Upon Layer of Constructed Self
A friend called me the other day on not acting very compassionately. And she was right. There is a side of me that’s superficial, uncaring, unconcerned. I’m incredibly shallow about the world and I actually don’t know what to do about it. Seeing how shallow I am brings up fresh, new levels of constructed self […]
That’s My Target
The Arcturians asked us to master every thought and feeling. I’d like to talk about mastering feelings for a moment. I watch myself and I see myself talking about things in a way that reflects how I feel – gloomy, depressed, elevated, happy. I “come from” the context of the feeling I’m presently experiencing. If […]
Three Windows into Vasanas
I’d like to post three discussions which are very relevant to anyone studying or processing core issues or vasanas. They tell us why it works to process them, how persistent vasanas are, and why there is no need to process beneficial vasanas. Why should we process our vasanas? Steve: The work we do in completing […]
The Driver of a Team of Stallions
In the course of reparenting myself, I’ve now reached the point of imagining myself as having three sides (that I want to work with). I think of them as a triumvirate. The first is Big Steve, my Adult consciousness. The second is Little Steve, my natural, pure, and innocent Child consciousness. And the third is […]
Increasing Higher-Dimensional Awareness
If you think about it for a moment, the work I’m doing reparenting myself can also be seen as increasing higher-dimensional awareness. Think of it this way. The more I become in touch with Big Steve, my Adult, my Higher Self, the higher my vibration seems to become. It seems to raise my vibration to […]
Staying in My Adult State
Having said what I’ve said as prelude, (1) I want to pick up the reparenting that I’m doing to master every thought and feelings. (2) If I’m to succeed with the Arcturians’ challenge, staying in my Adult without lapsing into my Wounded Child again seems a move in the right direction towards self-mastery. In this […]
John Enright: If You’re Doing It, You’re Digging It
I turned to enlightened Gestalt therapist John Enright to help me figure out how being right works. However I felt that some of the distinctions he made are so enjoyable and provocative that I decided to share them raw. John made it his his intention to find out what made Fritz Perls such a successful […]
Arn Allingham: Triggering. And What to Do about It!
Triggering. And what to do about it! Arn (Zingdad) Allingham httpss://zingdad.com/blog/196-triggering-and-what-to-do-about-it The psychological effect of “being triggered” by an external event is something that one hears about a great deal these days. It has become a mainstream concept, often mentioned in the press and in online articles. The concept, in case you are not familiar […]