Toward a World that Works for Everyone
I wrote an article the other day and was very pleased with myself. I found myself saying, “Yay, Steve,” and then I mysteriously broke down in tears. I realized at that moment that I’d been starved of validation from my Father as a young child and instead fed a diet of invalidation. The classic criticism […]
Most people would encounter the lessons I’m learning over a gradual period of growing up. The process would be called “maturing.” But, because of dissociation at an early age due to domestic violence, I “matured” only slowly and incompletely. Like many others, I built a constructed self around my disabilities. Scrapper, activist, etc. The only […]
Eric Berne’s ego states are particularly helpful in looking at the operation I’m doing on myself. What Berne meant by “ego state,” I think, would be the same as what we mean by “states of consciousness.” “Ego’” here just means “I.” If I can adapt his terms, I grew up with a bad-parent ego state […]
I turned to enlightened Gestalt therapist John Enright to help me figure out how being right works. However I felt that some of the distinctions he made are so enjoyable and provocative that I decided to share them raw. John made it his his intention to find out what made Fritz Perls such a successful […]
As I reparent myself and make my transition from sad … and mad … to glad, my sensitivity to my feelings increases. I become more aware of feelings that would have just been my “normal” back then. I was one compacted, compounded person. At the same time, I’ve been looking through the scrapbook Dad prepared […]
I can see that I’m on a journey of recovery, as are so many of us. The lessons of the journey seem to be cumulative. The experience of gentleness recently opened a new door of experience for me but it was also the latest in many lessons over time that were showing me the tremendous […]
I felt wretched today – all my friends are away at the moment. I felt lonely, sad, forlorn. Then I wrote a stimulating article and found myself at the end of it saying “Yes!” I immediately saw that what was present in the situation as it existed at the moment was unconscious invalidation (Happy? “Not […]
The Trauma of Toxic Masculinity Jared Yates Sexton, Yes! Magazine, April 19, 2019. httpss://tinyurl.com/y4rjy7nw What really lies beneath the anger and aggression of traditional White masculinity? During the two years I reported from the 2016 campaign trail, I watched stump speeches in cramped union halls and polished addresses to thousands, survived the major conventions, dodged flash […]
(Concluded from Part 1, yesterday.) What’s being asked of us lightworkers is persistence, determination, valor. We’re asked to stay at our posts till the end. That calls on us to expand our estimates in all directions. The Company of Heaven has to watch what they say that they don’t let the air out of the […]
A reader wrote in and said she was dying of waiting. Me too, I can assure you. What do I do to revive myself? (1) When I need to, I go through a number of steps. I might bring up love from my heart, which, when it arises, changes my outlook completely, no matter what […]
I mentioned some time ago that an occupational hazard of being a financial wayshower is that having wealth could multiply the impact of some vasanas or core issues. That could be for a variety of reasons. (1) The suppression button may be taken off. We now have complete permission to cut loose. (2) We have […]
I’m reviewing my readings with Michael and find myself wafted along by the inspiring things he’s saying. May I flow with it? In 2011, Michael commented: “Yes, we know that this is a time when all the shenanigans are being put out to play. But our code word is victory and it is not victory […]
I was about to write this to an editor, when I realized I was speaking more widely. “We need more and more writers given the task that lies ahead – and more and more of them, women. “It’ll have to be ‘training on the job.’ Everyone is invited to do whatever they can to help. […]
Reposted from Oct. 2009. Enlightenment and Paradigm Shifts I said earlier that we don’t want ice on our wings when trying to take off in our plane or we’ll stall. Recent events have shown me that it isn’t just Ascension that may bring a “take-off” in our lives. We’ll be faced with the opportunity for […]
Reposted from April 2011. I’ve said on a number of occasions that, as far as I’m concerned, cleaning up our unfinished business is what we need to be doing these days and that one cannot clean up unfinished business unless it’s present. One cannot access an upset that’s not happening in the moment. So when […]
