Credit: Jill Battaglia
On April 17th, 2020, Magenta Pixie posted a video outlining 3 steps necessary to release ourselves from the dark agenda as we move into unity consciousness
1) Learn about, and acknowledge, the abuses that have taken place and integrate the visceral and emotional reactions that will likely manifest.
2) Reclaim our rightful place as universal beings of free will by declaring our sovereignty and independence from control.
3) Transmit authentic energy of forgiveness, gratitude and love toward those service-to-self entities who intend on inflicting domination and harm.
As has been mentioned by others, it’s not surprising that many are finding Step 3 to be a hard pill to swallow. Once we enter into a state of knowing – realizing the full measure of the abuses that have, and are still, taking place – asserting our sovereignty comes as a reasonable next step.
However, embodying sincere expression of forgiveness, gratitude and love is a different story. We may bristle at the mere idea of transmitting kindness in the face of cruelty. We may reason that those intent on inflicting control, domination and harm are undeserving and unworthy of forgiveness, gratitude and love. And while these reactions are understandable – they are grounded in 3D consciousness and the lower-order brain reflexes of “fight or flight” triggered by our drive for survival.
The central challenge is how to transmute our feelings of horror, disgust, anger and outrage into energetics of sovereignty, gratitude, compassion and love. Perhaps, it would help to think of it this way…
The dynamics are very much like being engaged in – and breaking free from – an abusive relationship. We cannot free ourselves from our abusers unless, and until, we acknowledge the reality of the abuse and psychically recognize and reclaim our own free will and sovereignty. Once this shift takes place – we may then transmit compassion for the abuser’s pain, suffering and compulsion for control. We may wish them well – as we assert and manifest our independence from victimization – and go our separate ways.
Many years ago, I was involved in a violent relationship. My abuser convinced me of my role as victim through repeated acts of physical and psychological attack. He claimed dominion over me through consistent and strict control over my every movement, word and thought.
Wounded and terrified, I fell into a deep state of learned helplessness – convinced that my freedom, along with any hope of joy, was no more than a distant memory. To protect myself from violent retributions, I conformed to his wishes and complied with my own victimization. This went on for 5 years…
Until, one day, I had a “psychic shift”. Like a cosmic download – I had a sudden burst of realization that my abuser did not hold intrinsic power over me. I had, without realizing it, given him the permission to have power over me. I had acquiesced to his dominance and abuse – and through my own compliance – empowered his role as my abuser – and mine as victim.
Once this realization took place, I engaged in the process of the 3 Steps now before us. Like watching a movie of my life – I replayed each and every instance of abuse I’d suffered. I allowed myself to feel the full measure of my anger, outrage and fear.
And like a beam of energy piercing me to the core – I became infused with empowerment – and reclaimed sovereignty over my own destiny. This surge of realized independence and freedom enabled my escape and allowed for a newly created timeline and trajectory for my future.
Certainly, it would have been easy enough to begin my new path laden with bitterness, animosity and the desire for retribution. But I realized that the state of being physically free – was not the true essence of freedom. Had I continued to carry with me the baggage from those abusive years – I would continue to hold the “victim energetic” and become self-imprisoned.
So, what was the answer to this dilemma? Put simply: gratitude, forgiveness and love. My experiences with this abuser ultimately led to my lifelong career as an applied social psychologist – specializing in unity consciousness. It led to my teaching thousands of others about relationship violence and the existence of post-traumatic growth. Had it not been for this abuse, I would not be the person I am today and for that, I’m sincerely grateful.
I was able to embrace sincere forgiveness and compassion for my abuser – for whatever life experiences had led to his need to inflict harm on others. And from a point of psychic and energetic sovereignty – I was able to send him love – wishing him well – while remaining fiercely strong in my conviction that I would never accept, nor invite, another entity’s control over my destiny – ever again.
I sincerely hope that what I’ve shared helps to shed light on the importance of holding love for service-to-self others. Instead of standing in self-righteous judgment over misgivings – we may simply exonerate ourselves from their stronghold and manifest our own, freely chosen destinies. For it’s only through this process of love and forgiveness that we may hope to find our own, ultimate freedom.
