Every relationship I’ve ever lost, I’ve lost to an inability or unwillingness on my part or someone else’s (or both) to handle conflict.

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I’m tempted to say that we don’t have “relationships.” We have connections that are wonderful to begin with and then are choked off by the cycle of conflict and die.

You hear that Jim and Jane are having troubles. Oh, they’re back together again. No, they’re having troubles again. No, they’re back. No, they’ve separated for good now.

Does that not sound familiar? I can name several couples exactly like that that I know – in fact, every couple who’ve ever separated. One of those repeat participants would be me.

No, we weren’t taught the way out in schools. I went to countless therapists, psychiatrists, etc., etc., and didn’t learn a thing.

The teachers that worked were in the growth movement. They were the ones ploughing new ground.

Ben Wong, Jock McKeen, Werner Erhard, Claude Bernier, the circuit riders, I could go on and on. I acknowledge your contribution to me. I say what I say next as the result of what you (and my guides) taught me.

Let me re-introduce my graphic here.

Conflict arises when we don’t get what we want or need and there’s no good and apparent reason why not.

Conflict arises when “delicate” subjects are avoided and yet must be addressed.

Conflict arises when one person does not care for another, not really, when people of good intent feel taken advantage of, when a person feels unlistened to, disrespected, unvalued.

When any or all of these conditions are present, we find our love for a person pitted against our desire or need for our request for support or change to be at least addressed, if not granted.

I’m only talking about those requests for support that are not listened to or not granted and we feel they should or need to be. These are at the heart of the conflict.

When the desire and the “access denied” both persist, frustration builds. The pressure of our withheld communications begins to distract us. If our intention to deliver the communication is thwarted again and again, more pressure is added.

Until something occurs that ignites an explosion. A triggering comment. A gesture or word of disrespect, a lack of appreciation, anything sets it off.

I’m serious about talking about this subject. I’d like everyone in our lightworker family here to get this cycle down to our toes. This is a relationship killer and it needn’t be happening.

We must have it be gone from our arsenal … errrr … repertoire of communicational strategies.

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To review, first….

(Concluded in Part 2, below.)

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