In the wake of minding my own business, I started to think about another area of life where we have all been hooked. With energy expanding and our increasing levels of self love, are promises really a valid aspect of our lives?
Think about the construct of the promise. Someone or some thing asks you to remain in a certain behavioral boundary so that they can be happy or feel secure. As this concept is widespread in all areas of life, we have also asked others to make promises to us so we can feel happy and secure. In true hook fashion, the energy flows both ways.
The old adage that promises are meant to be broken appears to be true as well. We all keep making them and packing them away in our energy, but the number we have actually kept fit into a rather small space in our beingness. Even the promises we make to ourselves do not feel good, and more often than not we break them.
Why is this? I believe this has to do with the idea that we each live in a different universe and the things we hold as truth are all different. Additionally, as the energies increase our world is constantly changing, and thus the energy within which we made these promises has shifted.
Promises also feel inherently bad, because they indicate a lack of trust in our ability to operate in the highest integrity and unconditional love. This lack of trust feels foreign to our divine selves because at that level we know that all unfolds perfectly before us on our sacred paths. Applying constricting requirements to this divine unfolding feels false.
We can very often see the absurdity of promises when we look back at old laws that are still on the books. In Michigan, it is still against the law for a woman to go to the hairdresser without her husband’s permission, as her hair belongs to him.
As a young adult, transitioning out of a religious upbringing, I certainly thought it was absurd to live my life according to the teachings of a book written thousands of years ago. The world has changed and so have people.
Religious leaders were then left to interpret the teachings for modern day application, and this simply left everything up to their view of life and reality. This forced even stranger levels of promise and vows upon us if we gave our power over to these leaders and allowed them to shepherd our lives.
I remember having a heated discussion with my friend about the rules of the Catholic Lenten season. In her church, kids could have a break on Sundays from the strict guidelines of this season and eat candy after church. My mother, on the other hand, had no such reference in her upbringing and so we got no candy.
It appeared to me early on that others were applying their beliefs and using their own interpretations and then expecting me to follow the promises they set forth. We come into agreement with this construct through the acceptance hook I discussed in my last sharing, but it never ever felt good.
As a freedom seeking being, this completely frustrated me. I believe I was feeling my divine sovereignty, even at that young age, and seeing the ridiculous nature of promising to follow someone else’s dictates in the governance of my divine path.
How many promises have been made in your name without your consent? We could go on and on in this area, exploring all the moral, ethical and societal rules and regulations imposed on the citizenship of various countries.
Even if we do not agree with certain laws, we are expected to abide by them or face incarceration. While we all hope beings operate with love and personal sovereignty, laws certainly infringe on our free will divine sovereign creator beingness.
Social constructs such as friendship, family and marriage are rife with promises made and broken. While we mean well as we enter into these agreements, very few are upheld and many feel totally devastated and betrayed when they fall through.
Think about the yearly feast of New Year’s resolutions placed before us! Let’s make promises to ourselves and others that we will eventually break, and then let’s all feel badly about ourselves!
Advertisers and marketers understand this perfectly. People are instilled to make healthy choices and thus the products that support healthy choices get a boost in the first few months of the year. People join gyms and buy exercise equipment, all with high hopes of beating themselves into submission.
Then folks fall off the wagon and the products that they use to make themselves feel better, such as candy, ice cream and alcohol, get a big boost as well. The gym memberships go unused and the exercise equipment gathers dust, but the marketers are already happy.
They made their money and care not a fig that you didn’t follow through on your personal promises. That they care about our well-being in any way, is a mistaken belief on anyone’s part. All they care about it making money and everyone wins in this resolutions marketing game, except for the people it targets.
When we break promises or others break promises with us, are we really feeling let down and betrayed, or are we feeling completely opposed to promises in the first place?
(Continued in Part Two)