Susan: Since originally posting this article, it has come to our attention that I attributed the wrong source. Oops. The article was actually written by Mike Dooley at www.tut.com. Thanks to Vina and Suzanne for bringing this to our attention.
Steve: This is a very interesting item from Mike Dooley because my own research also substantiates that these are precisely the first messages that those who make the transition want to send back. To demonstrate that, I’ll post below Suzy’s article some messages from the other side that substantiate her comment.
The Top 10 Things “Dead” People Want You to Know
Mike Dooley, 12-20-2011, www.tut.com
1. They’re not ‘dead’.
2. They’re sorry for any pain they caused.
3. There’s no such thing as a devil or hell.
4. They were ready to go when they went.
5. You’re not ready.
6. They finally understand what they were missing.
7. Nothing can prepare you for the beauty of the moment you arrive.
8. Don’t try to understand this now, but life is exceedingly fair.
9. Your pets are as crazy, brilliant and loving, here, as they were there.
10. Life really is all about love, but not just loving those who love you…
In their own words,
Now here are some quotes from the newly-transitioned on the same subjects. The full titles of books can be found here.
Edwin told us that a very large majority of people are no sooner arrived in spirit than a burning enthusiasm overtakes them as the spirit world reveals itself to them in the new life and they immediately want to rush back to the earth and tell all the world about it. (Monsignor Robert Hugh Benson, LIWU, 54.)
When I first arrived my strongest desire was to try to demonstrate to the friends I left behind the fact that I still lived. In this I fear I was not very successful. (William James in LHH, 107.)
“Ruth, this is Lily and the group. Arthur Ford is here and wants you to know that he is as young as the merry month of May. He feels great and does not want you to grieve. He is so glad to be here, more delighted than you will ever know, for he has secretly yearned to make this trip of exploration and finds it much more beautiful than he had imagined or glimpsed while in trance. He’s on top of the world. A ball of fire! He’s so glad to be rid of the worn-out body which caused him such pain.” (Lily, Ruth Montgomery’s spirit control, in WB, 10.)
What are the facts? When anyone dies, upon awakening in their new surroundings, they naturally think of those they have left behind. If they are in great happiness, they long to tell their loved ones not to grieve for them. They want to describe the new and beautiful country to which they have come. With their clearer vision they are often able to guide those on earth in their human affairs, and, above all, they want them to realize how love is deeper, stronger, purer, than ever it was on earth.
Well, then, the cords of their great love draw them back to the earth and, in spirit form, they enter the old home. Their first sorrow is their total inability to make their presence known, their desire to comfort is unavailing; they watch the agony of grief and can do nothing. In their distress they often seek someone of psychic development and send a tender message of love and consolation. But, alas! Too often the bereaved will not receive the message. They are only frightened or incredulous.
Again they try, by abiding in the old home, to make one member, more receptive than the rest, realize their presence. But this time their touch, or partial manifestation, creates terror instead of joy and they are reluctantly obliged to resign themselves to knowing that in the home of which they were the centre their name is often never mentioned and they are regarded only as dead in the tomb, which friends with loving hands decorate with flowers and water with their tears. (John Heslop, SABL, 12-3.)
I struggled, fasted, sought for what was already present, perfect and everlasting within me. Like most of us in the body life I was in illusion; lost in glamour. I looked for the Spirit to reveal itself to me, when all that was necessary was ‘relaxation [into] God’ The Spirit was always with me, veiled because physical sight could not view it. The great secret of finding that Spirit was ‘letting go’ of self.
I, who longed so much for the touch of the divine, who dedicated my life to religious work, who read lives of the saints for their examples, who delved into the science of psychology, extrasensory perception, and all psychic phenomena, as well as into the occult sciences, who denied myself the usual sensual and reproductive life of a human being; who truly tried to obey the precepts of the Master, as related in the New Testament, I had not accepted the simple Reality of those word: “Behold, I am with you even unto the end.”
I had not been able to let go and let the Spirit absorb me. As I now see my thoughts, actions, aspirations from this angle, I am realizing that the very tenseness of my striving was my undoing and it barred the way to that very union for which my soul longed. (Frances Banks, TOL, 102-3.)
No soul can ever pass over into these worlds unless it has given its consent; and here I don’t mean a conscious consent, because the conscious mind is only a minor extension of the soul. The conscious mind may assume that death is approaching, but it is the soul itself that must give its consent before the process can take place. (Mike Swain in FMW, 50.)
My death [was] part of a plan. (Philip Gilbert in PTW, 212.)
My destiny had to be worked out. It was all fixed. (Philip to his mother, Alice Gilbert, in PTW, 115.)
I have brought about my own death because here I have greater works to do. (Sigwart, BOTR, 3.)
There comes to me from the earth such a feeling of oppression, of worrying, of anxiety, of fear of death, and all is derived from non-belief. If they could but realize the glory, even a fragment of the peace of this life I now experience. (Winifred Combe Tenants in SBS, 11.)
Nothing in life comes up to the immense joy of dying. (Sir Alvary Gascoigne in AL, 99.)
My death was beautiful. Everything became still. It changed to a quiet, calm sea after a blustering storm. The final experiences as a man were part of this storm. Then came the smooth waters of liberation. … It was a blessing to have been freed without illness, without extended pining away. (Sigwart, BOTR, 29.)
All the animals you have loved on earth and educated to understanding, will be with you here. (W.T. Stead, BI, 140.)
That is my dog [Frisker], my one faithful companion upon your earth. … He died while I was in France. I found him by accident soon after I came here. He recognized me and followed me. From that time all real loneliness has left me. (Private Thomas Dowding, PD, 66.)