Sooner or Later We Must Forgive Everyone in Our Lives

One of the circumstances I’m noticing happening for me recently is that I’m doing a lot of work in my dreams. In the last two days, I’ve had a lot of dreams in which I was either seeking forgiveness for past actions or releasing an attitude of resentment towards others.

Certainly we can safely predict that a time will come when we’ll need to let go of past resentments to rise with the uplifting energies. That time may now be upon us.

The best forgiveness practice, in my books, is Ho’oponopono, the ancient Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness. A simple Google search will turn up ample resources on that technique if you don’t already know it.

I’d like to provide two discussions here of the need to shed our resentments prior to Ascending: the first from the Arcturian Group and the second from Saul. This may be the only discussion I provide of the subject.

According to the Arcturian Group:

“The energy of ascension is the movement into a new state of consciousness. It is leaving behind the old ways and beliefs, and the energy that comprised them. Ascension means ascending into a new evolutionary level and is something that happens by grace. You do not simply choose to be ascended and the next day you have ascended. You must be in and of an energy that is able to handle the higher frequencies of the more refined light. …

“Ascension entails the release of old energies; those energies held in place only through accepted beliefs and concepts. All is energy. This is why we tell you that you are now releasing old patterns of energy. This is why you may be remembering hurts and pains from the past and feeling emotions of guilt, anger, or sadness. These are old energies that are now releasing from your energy fields in order for you to incorporate higher frequencies of light.

“It is very important to let these go, to allow those feelings to release and move into the nothingness that they really are. Do not claim them back in, saying to yourself; ‘I am so guilty, or I am such a bad person,’ etc. This is very important because, unless you understand what is taking place, the temptation is to accept old energies back in because you are experiencing them as they flow out.

“You are releasing, but the mind is interpreting on the levels it knows. So if you have dreams of some past event that is scary or is weird, but seems very real, it is probably the releasing of something from a distant past that you were still carrying around in your energy field. …

“The process of clearing uses energy and as a result many of you are feeling very tired and think something is wrong with you. The fact is that you simply don’t have as much energy left over for the usual things, when you are busy expending it for release and integration. At some point this will come to an end. Just lay down if you need to. Rest more, relax more, and allow yourself to have more fun.”

The next statements may as well be a recitation of what I’ve called the “upset clearing process,” they are so close. They say that one must have the upset in mind before one can release it, that one simply need become aware of the upsetting situation without trying to do something with it, and that the upsets carry only the energy we give them. If we give no energy to them but simply observe them, we complete our experience of them and they release their grip on us.

“Most clearing is done in a general way, but when an intense experience buried deeply from the near or distant past is ready to be released, it will somehow come to your conscious awareness either through a dream, a channeled message, healing energy work, memory, or some way that enables you become aware of it. This is necessary in order for you to release it on a conscious level.

“To do this, you simply become aware of it (this may be accompanied by some emotion), and then, when you are ready, realize that you no longer choose this to be a part of your energy and consciously choose to release it. This happens often with regard to sexual abuse energy, or traumas like being burned at the stake in another life, being murdered or events of a horrendous nature experienced when the world was at a very low level.

“Do not dwell on these events of the past. They are coming to you simply in order for you to release them. They carry only the energy or power that you give them now or have given them in the past. You are graduating and do not need to drag these with you. Indeed you cannot drag them with you because they only exist in the lower frequencies.

“Many hold onto past events of trauma as if they were medals of honor. They earned you lessons, but after that, you must let them go. Many spend their whole lives reliving and reactivating the energy of traumatic events. This is the ego at work. We are not denying that there was indeed much pain in the experience and that there is a need to heal, but what we are saying is that there comes a time for every individual to let the past go through the realization that there is no law to support these things, the are not God ordained or God sustained. They are images; illusions created in the third dimension through a belief in duality and separation.

“You see dear ones, it is time to move on. Many are experiencing this as the need to clean house — physically, emotionally, mentally, and spiritually. This is new energy of release and movement. This is the Ascension, dear ones. You are ascending, should you choose.” (1)

Saul also has a great deal of wisdom to share on the subject. In his Jan. 4, 2011 message, he says:

“You may think you want to leave [third dimensionality] and return to His divine Reality, but, until you forgive yourselves and one another unconditionally, and release all the grudges, judgments, and resentments you hold, you do not truly intend and will to return Home.

“Reality is a state of divine bliss, in which all is in a state of perfect harmonious wholeness, where nothing is hidden, and where all is at peace. By holding on to even the slightest amount of anger, resentment, non-acceptance, or self-pity you anchor yourselves firmly in your illusory reality, where such attitudes are quite normal.

“To feel that you have been treated unfairly and to expect God to compensate you for the suffering that you have experienced makes absolutely no sense. The illusion does not exist; nothing happened there; and those negative attitudes onto which you are holding cannot be reconciled — they can only be released. There is only Love, which is all-enveloping.

“The illusion is illusory, and within it there is no justice because nothing that happens there really happens. But as long as you believe in it, and by doing so support it, it will seem very real, along with the suffering and injustice experienced there. To stop believing in it you have to stop taking sides, and stop judging, blaming, and bearing grudges, and you have to start forgiving those you have judged. And the first person you have to forgive is yourself. As you begin to live like this you will find yourself experiencing moments of unexpected peace, and this will give you the motivation to continue.

“In the end, judgment is always self-judgment, as people and situations reflect back to you your own sense of unworthiness or wickedness. But you are not unworthy and you are not wicked. You are perfect because that is how your Father created you. And when you accept that fact you will cease behaving in a way that disturbs or unsettles you. Then you will release the negative attitudes to which you have been clinging so firmly — and the anchor that has been holding you in the illusion will be weighed as you sail for Home.” (2)

He reminds us that egoic behavior causes division and waiting for others is profitless.

“You only have to observe how this egoic behavior divides and separates people into warring factions in your illusory reality to understand what a waste of time and energy it is. Love, acceptance, compassion, and forgiveness will lead you forward on your spiritual path, whereas egoic behavior just anchors you in the emotional swamp until you decide to let go, pull up your anchor, and move forward again.

“Waiting for others to make the first loving move does not work in an environment where all feel threatened and are on the defensive. So weigh your own anchor, move forward with loving kindness, and be one of the wayshowers to full consciousness — your divine destination.” (3)

He suggests that seeking damages or an apology also does not work. It only reflects our underlying desire to be right.

“Pain and suffering can only be relieved by heartfelt forgiveness, never by forgiveness that is exchanged for damages or an apology. The need to be right is a tremendous obstacle to spiritual growth and personal happiness, and the error of this concept is finally beginning to dawn on humanity.

“It is a most wonderful enlightenment to understand and accept this basic truth. Once it is accepted, living always in the now moment makes perfect sense as there is no need to dwell on past wrongs or insults, and no need to worry about the possible occurrence of new ones in the future.

“Truly, offense and insult are non-existent. They are merely false concepts held by those who doubt themselves and are desperately seeking the approval of others to relieve those self-doubts.” (4)

He tells us that it may take some reflection and practice to make the switch to universal non-judgment and acceptance. but the results will convince us of the wisdom of the move.

“As you become used to not judging, to just observing, you will see that nothing is truly right or wrong, and that attempting to see things as one or the other makes no sense. The less you judge, the less you will feel a need to judge. You will be able instead to silently forgive those who are arguing, disagreeing, and judging; and in so doing, you forgive yourself, for all are one.

“The more you forgive, the more you will become aware that all are one, and that judging one judges all, and forgiving one forgives all. When you forgive, you find love within you and you realize that with love in your heart you are unable to hold a grudge.

“Initially, you will oscillate between judgment and forgiveness, between grievance and love. But as you practice with intent you will notice changes in yourself and in others due to the aura of peace that you extend. Arguments and disagreements will occur less frequently, and when they do, they will be far less strident. Your practice will build an energy field of peace around you that others will feel and respect.” (5)

I have a sense that moving from a place of judgment, blame, and resentment to a place of non-judgment, non-blame, and forgiveness may be the single most difficult piece of work we will ever be called upon to undertake. I personally, in my early years, made a career out of resenting. As the runt of the family, resentment was a major weapon.

Resenting made me what I was. I never forgot or forgave an injustice and went on to become a human-rights decision maker, the conscience of the community, in a manner of speaking. Though I was not a judge officially, I still did the work of a judge in society. So judging others became something I was paid to do. How is that for a cover and an excuse to be judgmental?

But I now see how poorly that served me in many respects and I’m now faced with a truly large task of undoing that side of myself. If I can cross this river, anyone can. And now may be the time we’re required to do it.