The Challenges that Sacred Partners Face

Perhaps no generation in millennia has seen the rise of so many passionate sacred unions as this one.

Many people were born today with soul contracts to enter into twin-flame unions and sacred partnerships as a way of furthering the Mother’s Plan for the rise of unitive consciousness, culminating in Ascension

When the two partners come together, the passion that arises may eclipse any relationship they’ve had before. But when the passion shows even the slightest hint of subsiding, the problems may begin.

Before we look at these circumstances, let’s look at where the new sacred unions fit into the Divine Plan.

Archangel Michael has said that the Mother is proceeding by us having us bond with our sacred selves, then with sacred partners, and then with others in steadily-expanding circles until oneness or unitive consciousness prevails on the planet.

“The first union is with your sacred self, adhering, embracing, and, yes, celebrating the totality of your being. Acknowledging it, reveling in it, and allowing it to expand even further is the first step. …

“It is happening in terms of union of friendships, of groups, of what we would call partnerships or sacred unions. Even family members are beginning to recognize one another. But strangers across the lands, across the continents, are realizing, ‘I need to be working. I need to be talking. I need to be playing. I need to be in a form of relationship with that person,” or with that group of people.’

“This is only going to intensify, because you are willing to stand there etherically naked and be seen.” (1)

And the Mother herself has said:

“The plan has always been one of union and reunion. …

“It begins small and it continues to expand out. It is really a very simple plan. My plan is for the entire group of humanity to fall in love. … And it begins two by two.” (2)

But sacred unions today have their own pitfalls. One is that having never experienced such tremendous passion in our other relationships, we quickly develop the fear that we’ll lose this tremendous love-bond we have. And that can lead us to want to either control the other or else cave in and cater to their every whim so they’ll stay.

If we see the passion subside even a little, immediately we may begin to fear the loss of our partner’s love. If our sacred other acts independently, we fear a loss of control. And if they seem to want to swallow us up, we fear a loss of identity.

What arises in one partner or both is a pattern of running – and sometimes returning. One partner runs out of a fear of losing love, losing control or being swallowed up. And then, profoundly missing the passion, the runner returns – sometimes again and again. And the more stable partner may respond by welcoming him or her back, also in love with the experience of passion.

This welcoming back may be accompanied by a sense of having learned and maturity may see the two succeed at last in providing the right mixture of intimacy plus distance so that both partners can exist. Or one partner may again run.

I myself am a runner. I run in three ways. If I reach a frustration level that I can’t tolerate, I may submerge myself in conditions like fear, worry and irritation. If the frustration goes still higher, I may suggest that perhaps it’s time for me to vamoose. And if it goes even further, I may actually “call the whole thing off.”

My predominant fear is loss of identity, although that word doesn’t completely capture it for me. It’s more a fear that I won’t be able to complete my mission as a writer. If I can’t do my work, that’s when the runner rises in me.

Apparently, according to many discussion of the subject on Youtube, it’s a typical phenomenon for some partners in sacred unions to run to preserve their control and identity and for others to welcome the runner back again and again to regain that passionate love they once felt. Even though these on again/off again relationships can be high in passion, they can be dysfunctional and subject everyone concerned to a lot of pain.

And because the relationship has seemed supernormal, especially in terms of passion, the two can feel that they reside outside the normal rules or ways of society. They may agree to overlook the dysfunctionality in these circumstances, feeling that their relationship, though dysfunctional, makes an immense contribution to society that justifies the pain.

The couple can live a life of short periods of intense passion and long periods of intense pain. The very passion that twin-flame or sacred unions generate can delude the couple into thinking the highs justify the lows. And they may. But they also may be a disruptive influence on family and friends.

One commentator pointed out that the answer to this is spiritual maturity. (3) The two twins or partners may need to call themselves on their own numbers and quit responding from their vasanas and false beliefs. They may need to commit and honor their commitments. If they can’t tie themselves to the mast, then perhaps for the sake of the other and all their family and friends, they should move on.

Archangel Michael encouraged me not to make the mistake of locating the passion in the other, but to see that the passion is located in me and that I generate it and also cause it to subside. He doesn’t want me to attach it to someone else lest I fall into this pattern of fearing loss of love, when love is inside me all the time and arises from the inner Source.

The experience of passionate love is undoubtedly a foretaste of life in the higher dimensions, but we may not have evolved our intelligence enough to be able to navigate the passionate experience. We have taste of profound love but lack the skills to avoid the impact of the fear of loss of love, control and identity.

The new circumstances of the love relationship today are tremendously satisfying and enjoyable but they also carry their own challenges and pitfalls. All will not necessarily be a bed of roses ever after once we meet our twin flame or sacred partner. As wonderful as the experience of heightened love and passion is, it requires maturity; that is, balance, wisdom, and grounding.