Lorraine is at work on a project on communicating one’s way through conflict.
I’m going to try to get at a complex matter that was part of that conversation. That conversation was itself about a second, earlier (channeled) conversation with a galactic group.
One topic in the conversation with the galactics was that we can have stopped certain “negative” behavior but still be caught in a “positive” trap.
For instance, we can have stopped judging others, but still be caught in a trap of praising ourselves because we’ve stopped judging others.
Let me put the same point in a number of ways for clarity’s sake.
- Lightworkers can have stopped the “negative” side of the self-serving bias (minimizing the role of others) but still be caught in the “positive” side of the self-serving bias (maximizing our own role in things).
- We can have stopped being critical, but still be mired in being narcissistic.
- We can have progressed from not seeing ourselves as unworthy, but still feel the need to be seen as worthy.
- We can have stopped perpetrating but still be praising ourselves for not perpetrating.
- We can have stopped being down on others, but still need to feel special, evolved, etc.
OK, enough repetition! I’m not trying to drive you insane.
How hard it is to have stopped “negative” behavior but not become trapped in “positive” behavior.
According to Lorraine, Mark Thurston coined the phrase “early holy” to denote this second trap. “Early holy” refers to having come through some spiritual struggles, but now wanting recognition for having come through those struggles.
We’ve advanced, so to speak, but we’re enamored of our own advancement. It isn’t “truly” holy to have made progress but still be loudly praising our own progress.
The “early holy” trap can also show up as putting others on pedestals and being effusively “positive” towards and about them. Praising them, making sure to describe everything they do in glowing terms, buttering them up, etc. That’s no service to them or ourselves.
In this case, we’re not going on and on in praise of ourselves, but going on and on in praise of someone else, which really places us in a one-down position and sets them up for a fall. I can imagine that too being caught in the meaning of “early holy.” But I could be wrong.
The trick is to not be caught in either trap.
One could call this middle position neutral, detached, or complete. It consists in neither being negative towards others nor being unduly positive about ourselves.
Neutrality implies being free of positions, attachments, prior agendas, etc. Neutrality is what allows for balance and balance is key to maintaining equanimity, which itself is important given how much change we’ll be encountering soon.
But, even having reached a neutral or detached place will not be the end of the road. There’s no end to the road, of course.
There always seems more ground to cover in our climb to higher dimensionality. After completing the negative trap, we have to complete the positive trap. After completing that, there are still things we do that are neither negative nor positive that need to go. Our “bad habits,” for instance. After completing that….
We make finer and finer distinctions and polish the statue to a greater and greater sheen.