Suzi Maresca raised an interesting point the other day. She introduced the notion of “calling someone on their stuff” in an InLight Universal call.
That’s a growth-movement notion for not buying a person’s story but instead mirroring back to them what you see or think is happening. Usually the person is running a victim act, as we’d have said in the 1970s, and we don’t want to buy into it, as a matter of integrity. It led to a very useful exchange.
And it set me thinking. “Calling someone on their stuff” was used to get people to open up in an encounter group when time was limited (a weekend, a week). One member of the group called someone on something and away they’d go.
After the Reval, I think we’ll find that we’ll need conflict-resolution techniques.
Why after the Reval? The Reval will restore something to us we lost a long time ago: The experience of unfettered choice.
For some of us (me, for sure), that’ll let loose a volcano of suppressed childish desires, pent-up frustrations, vengeful thoughts, every bit of molten lava that’s been kept down for so long.
Why my concern? It stems from a spiritual experience I had several years ago, which I reported at the time. I was doing something ordinary when, totally out of the blue, the thoughts I was having, which were banal, were greatly magnified. I think I found a nearby woman attractive. When these thoughts were very largely, greatly magnified, I became a lascivious monster for about two seconds. And then the experience vanished.
It shook me to the core. It contained human history in one moment of time. I was shown what it was like, in record time, to go from banal thoughts of sexual attraction to lascivious monster, to descend into the densest and darkest of realms. It was truly awful and shocked me. I staggered when I came out of that experience.
So I look at the Reval tsunami with different eyes than many other people. I say to myself: “Steve, you should sound the warning bell. This is not going to be two seconds of unconsciousness. This is a life-changing event that people should prepare for, at least in their thinking, their intellectual knowledge.”
We’re looking at conflict resolution. In the absence of those skills, what we usually do is we (1) gunnysack (refuse to discuss things, while storing up resentment), (2) manipulate (try to coerce or trick someone into doing what we want since plain-out asking didn’t work), or (3) any other number, act, routine, racket, etc., that we have in our repertoires (see Eric Berne, Games People Play for more examples).
We’re devious, calculating, and selfish and nothing works. These are our Third-Dimensional paradigms and habits which we now need to shake.
If we lightworkers don’t shake them and don’t have a mechanism that allows us to raise issues with each other, we’ll probably end up going our own ways and not speaking to each other in fairly short order. It’ll be made shorter by the experience of abundance and choice.
We’ll hook up to stray thoughts like “I don’t have to put up with that stuff any longer.” And the ones closest to us will likely feel the impact of our “newfound courage” first.
(Concluded in Part 2, below.)