In an earlier reading through channel Linda Dillon, Archangel Michael had referred to my control patterns.
As often happens, I don’t pick up on any one comment quickly enough to ask for more details and so in the next reading (Aug. 3) I asked him to tell me about my control patterns. The discussion that followed is so helpful that I post it here.
Again I hope this discussion proves especially helpful to financial wayshowers. Thank you to Dana for our transcript.
Steve: Can you discuss with me in detail my control patterns please? Because I’m going to be working with an awful lot of people and, gosh, I don’t want to be controlling, that’s for sure.
Archangel Michael: You are used to being in a leadership position. It is your preferred position.
Steve: Really? I thought I was a lieutenant historically rather than a leader.
AAM: No. You also have a tendency – because you have come to Earth with a significant mental capacity, shall we say – to see solutions and thought patterns and ideations more clearly than many.
Now you like to think of yourself as collegial and unitive and you are. That is also part of your nature because you have seen the manipulation and meanness of your father, which has taught you. So your desire is to be inclusive and expansive.
What you are lacking, dear heart, and I am teasing you in this, is you get fed up. You tend to allow the process, shall we say, to go forth in a community-based reality, in a collaborative back-and-forth type of manner and then you get fed up and think, “Why can you not see the truth?” And you lose patience. You lose your temper and go into controlling mode. (1)
Your presence has the ability, which you have exercised at times, of being controlling, of being intimidating. So, what you have need to do, and I will gladly assist you in this, because you know I work. I am a leader of my legions. But if you do not think we work cooperatively, of course we do. I would never put my will upon any being for that is not the way of love.
One of the questions that you can always ask yourself is “What would love do? How does love behave?” Now that is not to say that you won’t lose patience because you will.
As you venture out into a myriad of community projects, you are going to be sorely tried so it is good that we address this right now. When you feel this sense of impatience, and understand what we say, there is a place for impatience because impatience gets things done.
But, there is a difference between impatience and falling into control. When you feel impatience boiling up, step back. Step way back. Your tendency, when the impatience starts to simmer, is to step forward and take control.
Step back and become the observer. In being the observer, see what needs to transpire in order for action to take place because there is far too much navel-gazing upon the planet. (2) Yes, I say that very clearly. So step back and be the observer and discern what action would result in the most positive step forward.
It [may] not always [bring] the immediate outcome but it is at least a step towards a positive outcome, [and ultimately] towards the creation and co-creation – a very key ingredient, co-creation – of Nova Earth.
From that place, you make suggestions. Because you do not know how else to do it and we are not suggesting that you temper this. But suggestions are not commands. So bring forth your suggestions in a collaborative way that you are prepared to hear “no” to and let go. …
Your role is to create and let go. Create and let go. In many of these situations, what you are doing – and the control issue comes up often in interpersonal relationships as well – you are creating – letting go. Suggesting – letting go. Stepping back – letting go.
This reading is gratefully used with the permission of channel Linda Dillon and the Council of Love, Inc., 2015.
(1) I’m so aware of this. I get impatient when others can’t keep up with me or see what I see. I get irritable and at those times may lose my temper. I especially don’t like people putting roadblocks in my path: this derives from wanting to be a top producer to show my Dad that I was not a lazy, no-good good-for-nothing. My impatience lies at the heart of it. I have to lose these patterns. They no longer serve me, if they ever did.
(2) In other words, he’s having a conversation for action and observes that there is too little action in the world and too much navel-gazing.