What’s arising over there is something that I never thought possible: a rich and deep sharing community.
I broke my pick trying to get this started in other online communities and somehow it always eluded us. But the mods and the community itself have done it.
Andrea keeps fencing with me and trying to get me to take a share of the credit but I did not create the container, manage it every day, tend the new shoot and water the plant. And build a fence around it and keep the cows away. They did.
And the community itself took up the challenge of sharing.
I wonder if they get that sharing is what I do all day long. So you don’t need to run a blog to do that. You can do that in a discussion group and save yourself a tremendous amount of doingness. (And then come and write for the blog.)
I think the least I can do is say what’s there for me around sharing itself because, if they could build a sharing community, then it says that the process can work and that for me has me doing a little dance over here.
Sharing is a process of truth-telling, self-revelation. Sharing is me telling you what’s so for me, not what’s so for you. Sharing has nothing to do with me minding your business. It has everything to do with me sharing who I am in the matter so you know.
Not necessarily my opinions, perhaps sometimes. But what is for me the truth of the matter, as I see it.
Sharing is completed by someone else feeding back what they got that we shared or what came up for them about themselves so (1) we can get the mirroring ourselves and (2) we can see that we were heard. Sometimes we only know the truth when we speak it. We get to hear it going by, so to speak, hot off the press.
And so unless we can speak it, and unless someone can hear it without messing with our share, we never get to know the truth of the matter.
When that point of sharing and feeding back happens, sharing is really doing what it’s meant to do: reveal the truth of us to us at exactly the same time it reveals the truth of us to you.
This process, as far as I’m concerned, was at the heart of the Growth Movement.
It’s a beautiful process and I’ve never actually seen it arise in a group so I am as happy as anyone else to watch it arise now – right over there. (Where? http://groups.yahoo.com/group/GoldenGaia/.)
What is it not? It has nothing to do with trying to advise or fix another. We actually do not need fixing.
If we simply concentrated on sourcing our own vasanas and leaving the comfort of our acts behind for the wonderful discomfort of simply being who we are in the matter, everything would unravel for us and well-being, happiness and satisfaction with life would return. And sharing is the social means by which we guide ourselves to release our vasanas and step out of the constructed self.
Sharing is not the only form of communication. A supervisor may need to address someone else’s business. A psychotherapist may need to counsel. Not saying that. But I think that sharing is the most constructive and productive social form of discourse.
This is such a red-letter day for me. I feel positively, outrageously happy seeing this development. I think I’m going to go out and make a nuisance of myself somewhere until someone gets and feeds back to me how outrageously happy I am.