If I were to think of one change that would most benefit the world, it’d be to respect the free will of others.
I mean really pride ourselves on the degree to which we honor the free-will choices of others.
I hear a lot of people saying that “we have free will,” “we live in a free society,” etc.
We have a degree of freedom in our societies. But I’m talking about turning the microscope up and seeing if we really respect the free will of others in our ordinary, day-to-day relationships.
I know there are limits. My free will to act ends where my actions promise to harm you. I’m talking about the broad middle territory rather than the limiting cases on the extremes.
If we look at almost any relationship we had, in the Third Dimension, I’m willing to bet that many of us made most of our relationships a dance of control. In the old 3D, that was standard procedure for many people.
In my view, the question that dominated our attention, regarding relationships, was how to control the other to get what we wanted.
We practiced word games of control, best illustrated by our use of the word “should.” You should do this. You should feel that. You should buy this for me. You should get a higher-paying job.
On and on we’d go, working the other person over, until their experience of the acceptability exercising their own free will was eroded.
We had maxims handy to dominate and control: Children should be seen and not heard; always respect your elders; do what your parents tell you.
Sexuality became caught up in the politics of control, both partners using allurement and denial as tactics to get what they wanted.
Parents would order their children around. Violence was used. The word “wilful” came to mean not strong-willed self-reliant, but disobedient.
When war between the genders broke out in relationship, anything was fair game – any manipulation, any tactic, any words. The desire for control yielded to the desire for destruction, as in the movie, The War of the Roses.
Our popular culture had names for victims of control: Henpecked husbands, browbeaten wives, etc.
Eric Berne wrote an entire book about the Games People Play in relationships – Why Don’t You Yes But, Look What You Made Me Do, Let’s You and Him Fight, and numerous others.
Control and obedience were valued, emphasized and promoted.
I’m going to leave the matter here, but I’d like to take a detailed look at some point at the universal law of free will and compare it to the ways we used to regularly conduct life here.
Free and independent beings are essential to establish élan [confidence] among the corps of lightworkers who will soon begin exerting their influence all over the Earth. Honoring each others’ free-will choices will be a necessity for successful work together.