One of the primary lessons I’ve learned in this incarnation is the importance of the state of allowing. I can’t claim I’ve perfected it, but I do feel I’ve learned a great deal through years of approaching life as a struggle.
Recently, I’ve come to a point of feeling comfortable speaking about what I’ve learned in hopes of inspiring others working through similar themes. Because love is said to be all there is (1), I’ll focus much of this writing on the allowing of love.
Apparently, the Third-Dimensional world we perceive around us is like a mirror, and really nothing more. The Arcturians refer to it as a hologram.
“You are not a third-dimensional being. There is a third-dimensional holographic projection that is a component of the third-dimensional holographic projection of third-dimensional Earth. You, whoever each of you that are listening is, [are] a great multi-dimensional being that has logged into this holographic projection of your individual self.” (2)
Returning to the mirror analogy, Bashar (channeled through Darryl Anka) once stated something to the effect of (paraphrasing), “We don’t look in the mirror with a sad face and expect the mirror to reflect our smiling face back to us. Similarly, we cannot look out at the world with a sense of lacking love and expect it to reflect love back to us.”
When we feel sorry for ourselves, lonely and unloved, resentful that the world is not meeting our expectations, this state of affairs continues to be all we can perceive in our experience and in our environment, in my view, as long as we hold onto these feelings.
This doesn’t mean we must always be happy to allow. I have discovered that I can start the allowing process from any emotional state. One way of allowing when we’re feeling sad or down is through being vulnerable—embracing our present emotional state and loving ourselves unconditionally. When we do, the universe reflects back this love and provides us with support in an infinite number of ways.
To illustrate the point, I recall a time long ago when I had a misunderstanding with a friend that left me emotionally raw. Rather than fighting the feeling or getting angry, I simply allowed myself to feel the pain I was feeling, unmasked.
Another person— more of an acquaintance than someone I really knew—saw me me in this state and offered me a hug, which was a huge gift at the time. I can think of many other times in which trusting in vulnerability has been the key to receiving the support I needed.
When we’re feeling love, it seems, we naturally see it reflected in the outer world as well. The more we feel it within, the more we see it without.
When we’re in the flow of love, I’ve found, we can allow more and more of it by magnifying our current state through being the love. When we’re within this flow, the world will always reflect love back to us.
This is what comes to mind for me when I hear the quote, “Be the change you want to see.” This process of flowing love out is a loop which has love flow back to us. But, yes, it must start within.
By breathing and relaxing, we open up the energetic flow in our bodies, allowing ourselves to be open to the love of the universe that’s always present, just waiting for us to receive it.
In relationships, and in all areas of our lives, by letting go of expectations, we allow ourselves to receive. By clinging, demanding, or grasping, we restrict the flow. It can feel like a paradox—letting go and receiving.
By showing our appreciation, I’ve discovered, we bring forth the best in others. On the other hand, when we expect the best in others to come forth first (as a condition to our showing appreciation), we set ourselves up for disappointment. Conditional love has never worked. When we’re disappointed in another, we keep ourselves apart from the flow of love.
So much of allowing seems to be about releasing the grip of the ego. When the ego is out of the way, all things are possible. Human relationships can be so simple when stripped down to their essence. It’s only ego that causes them to become complicated. When we speak our truth from a place of love and vulnerability, there’s little room left for conflict.
In the end, we’re all beings who want to be loved, even those who appear to be otherwise. The key to allowing love is to take the leap of faith in being that love first without any expectation of a return. The return always comes in one form or another.
We’re told that the ultimate source of love lies within each of us. As we’re all an aspect of God, we all contain this essence. Our need for love must first be met from within by way of self-love and by receiving the love of God that’s available to all of us from within.
Once we’ve re-established this natural flow of love within ourselves, we can begin to flow love out. We’re then open to receiving. However, as illustrated above, this receiving is a result of first putting out the love unconditionally, and without expectation of anything in return—perhaps a leap of faith.
When we have a deep sense of trust and knowing that the universe loves us and provides us all we need in abundance, I believe, it cannot help but do just that. Adding gratitude for all our blessings will magnify the process.
Cultivating a state of gratitude or appreciation for all the blessings we see around and within us is a great way of getting into the flow of allowing. Making a daily practice of appreciating all we see or can think of is a good way making unconditional love our default state; and with unconditional love, everything is possible.
(1) Saul, May 22, 2013.
(2) Suzanne Lie and the Arcturians on Heavenly Blessings, July 2, 2013 at http://goldenageofgaia.com/2013/07/suzanne-lie-and-the-arcturians-on-heavenly-blessings-july-2-2013/