In my last article, I was describing a therapeutic form of listening, designed to get at our partner’s unwanted condition or upset.
I wasn’t suggesting that all conversations should be only one person speaking and the other person listening. Pardon me for not being clear.
(Continued from Part 1.)
Now let me share about sharing, if you would.
By “sharing,” I don’t mean equal giving and receiving. Although I do in part.
I mean sharing ourselves, making ourselves known to each other, getting across who we are in the matter.
Archangel Michael called it standing there “etherically naked.” (1) It involves being willing to be open, neutral, and transparent before our partner, without hiding.
We agree to share everything important about ourselves. It actually gets to be fun. We use our sharing to go deeper and deeper into relationship. We peel back the layers and reveal ourselves.
But not many people do this today. It sometimes looks like a lost art.
How to Share
We often don’t share this way and we don’t know what we’re missing. So much of it is don’t know don’t know.
We share news. We share encouragement. But we don’t really get down to brass tacks and share ourselves.
Share your more profound thoughts (not all your thoughts) but all your emotions. Actually say “I feel sad” when you feel sad. Give your partner the information that they need to see to your needs.
I’ve noticed that a great number of people don’t know how they’re feeling. Or if they think they know, they express a thought in the guise of a feeling. “I feel that you should.” Not a feeling. Not even a share. Does not give the needed information and tells the other what to do.
Most people will only take a step on our behalf after they know how we feel about a situation. Sharing our feelings, as feelings, is perhaps the most important aspect of sharing for me.
The very first poem I wrote began with: “I want you to know me deeply, truly as I am.” That’s always been my motivation behind sharing. And that’s always been what I’ve wanted to share. Myself deeply. (And that’s what I try to do here.)
We need to know each other deeply and to be known deeply as well. And that can only come from self-revelation matched by equal self-revelation. No hiding here.
Or ask ourselves what are we hiding? Why are we hiding it? What is left unexpressed? What is consciously and continually dropped out on? Who are we in the matter of our own life? And then share it. All this needs to be known and explored.
I’d say most of us know about 15% of our partners. But this is now slated to change. We’re moving into a higher-dimensional life where sharing ourselves will be natural. It’s just this in-between time we need to navigate.
Just Share Yourself
When people start sharing, they find out that everyone’s share is equal. Sharing is the great leveller. The prince and the commoner are equal in their shares.
Everyone’s share is verifiable only by themselves. It isn’t a case of anyone being wrong. Everyone’s share is their share.
I don’t care how we share ourselves – whether it’s through words or hugs or whatever. Just share yourself. If we do, then I’m happy.
That combination of listening and sharing is for me the sine qua non of successful relating – that without which, there is nothing. It’s a firm foundation and an indispensable tool.
That’s what I want for myself. That’s what I’d wish for anybody. This way of communicating is for me a human being fulfilling their promise to the Mother around relationship. It’s the New You, as Linda calls it, and the way of the future.
(1) “Archangel Michael: I See You! I Love You! I Will Engage,” at http://goldenageofgaia.com/2013/11/notes-from-archangel-michaels-discussion-of-sacred-partnership/.