You know the elephant in the room? The huge and obvious topic that everyone knows about and no one wants to talk about?
The elephant in the room was what happens when lightworkers disagree. We had the discussion because something happened in the day which was so saddening to me that I did not think I could go on the air without saying something about it.
I don’t mean about what happened. It’s probably better to leave that aside and allow it to heal. It was a disagreement among old friends that revolved around the Neptune expedition.
I had arrived back on the site and showed no deep remorse for the expedition and did not drop my sources. Others were apparently waiting to see if I did and, when I did not, I incurred a penalty which shocked and saddened me.
I did not feel I could speak on the show after having been absent for a month and talk over top of such an upset. That would be inexplicable to listeners, but very apparent. So Graham, Geoff, and Linda agreed that we might use the occasion to introduce the topic of how lightworkers handle disagreement. And I appreciate them for having done that.
I wanted to discuss the matter a little more here because many of us will be participating in projects together.
On the incident in question, there isn’t much that can be said. Lightworkers will disagree. They each rely on their own discernment. I have taken exception to the sources used by other people. Why would other people not do the same with me? The whole affair was handled civilly and there isn’t anything I can complain about. Not like I want to anyways.
But I did want to say that, when disagreements arise, we 3D humans usually fight, [mate], or flee. (OK, I toned that one down, admittedly.) Those are our three classic responses. However there is a fourth alternative and in fact there may be many more.
The fourth alternative is to process the upset we’re in as a result of opposition by being with and observing it, asking the mind to cast up to us a picture, thought, or word which identifies the original incident that has us be upset. Once we see that original incident, and complete the feelings around it which we would not complete way back when, the upset generally disappears and we can respond to the disagreement with much more equanimity.
Archangel Michael had much to say on the topic as well and we’ll be reproducing his words as soon as Ellen, whom we have saddled with so many transcriptions, has a rest and can turn her hands to it. We’re trying not to overwork poor Ellen.
It also brought up another aspect of our lightwork that I wish to comment on – what happens when we begin projects together and disagreement arises on those?
I wanted particularly to warn lightworkers that projects have stages. The first stage, when people agree to work together, is the honeymoon. Everyone is high and excited. Differences are overlooked. The horizon looks clear. And away we go.
But when we begin to work together we find we’re different people, have different paths, values, approaches, goals – on and on the differences go in this second phase, which I call the tug of war.
One type of disagreement happens between two classic types of people. A workshop leader called them “poptops” and “uprooters.” The poptop moves from topic to topic without an apparent segway; the uprooter is very logical and linear. One colleague renamed these “poptart” and “digger.” Those may be even more descriptive terms. Poptarts and diggers are among the first people on a project to have a falling out. But there are all manner of others.
In this second phase we begin to fall back on our third-dimensional ways of handling disagreements – we run and hide, have sidebar discussions in which we blame some and make treaties with others, and generally nurse our wounds and watch our relationships fall apart.
Many projects collapse in this second phase. But if we handle ourselves well and maturely we pass to the third phase of coalescence. I don’t want to go a whole lot further with this topic now, other than to warn you that, if you begin a project and it descends into disagreement, this is normal and doesn’t have to be fatal.
But how to handle lightworker disagreements is going to be a subject that we’ll discuss more and more over the coming weeks and months because so many of us are stepping out and risking becoming targets and so many of us are joining in projects and will have to navigate the tug-of-war phase.
My thanks to my colleagues on An Hour with an Angel for holding that discussion and hopefully opening up the subject for much wider treatment. And a hearty welcome to Geoff West who joins the team permanently as co-host and served me so well during my absence.